Being Adopted at School

As children settle into the new school year this week, some will encounter curiosity from classmates. Younger children may be asked, “is that your real mom and dad?” If they are from a non-diverse area, they may have comments about skin color or physical features. Older children may have teachers ask if their parents speak English. One middle-schooler found that her teachers’ attitude toward her changed when they met her white mother. The teachers had assumed that the girl was an illegal alien and that they wouldn’t be able to communicate with her parents. One of our blogger’s wrote about … Continue reading

Parent Heritage Presentation: Smoothing the Way

I had signed up to do a presentation in Meg’s class on Korea. I planned to do this no matter what country Meg chose to write about in her Heritage Report. Last year some of her classmates had distressed her by asking questions about adoption and about her “real mom”. I responding by reading some adoption books to her class, but this year I wanted the presentation to be on Korea and not to put Meg on the spot about adoption. I went to talk to our school principal, whose children, now in college, had also been adopted from Korea. … Continue reading

At Last: The Conclusion to the Heritage Report Odyssey!

Hooray! Meg did her Heritage Report on Korea! For those of you wondering what the big deal is, well, maybe it isn’t that big a deal…but I’m hoping her change of subject signals pride in being Korean and willingness to acknowledge her adoption. When I last wrote about this project, Meg said she was doing it on Canada. She began to draw the Canadian flag, but I put off helping her research the rest of the report in the hope she’d change her mind and do Korea. She changed her mind four days before the report was due, but in … Continue reading

Heritage Report, Take Three

I’m still putting off getting started on Meg’s heritage report. I keep hoping that she’ll change her mind and do Korea, but she’s resisting. She’s practicing drawing her maple leaf for the Canadian flag. I’ve been worried that she feels embarrassed about being different, but I guess I’m the one who needs to let go of worrying about what other people think. But then, I guess I’m the one who needs to let go of worrying about what other people think. I’ve written before about how I felt compelled to bring two dishes to my son and daughter’s preschool ethnic … Continue reading

The Heritage Report, Continued

In my last blog I shared that my eight-year-old has to write a report on a country in our family heritage. Our family contains seven different ethnic heritages (that we know about), but Meg herself is Korean. She’s talking about doing Canada for the report. While my husband’s family name is French-Canadian in origin, his family moved to New England generations ago, and of all the heritages Meg could choose from, that’s probably the one we have the least family ties to. (I guess she could write that my Yankee in-laws can distinguish half a dozen grades and shades of … Continue reading